Distance makes the heart grow fonder, which is especially true for Valentineís Day. It is a wonderous thing to be with the one you love. And Saint Valentine was persecuted, endeavouring to maintain a pagan right of choice and the union of loving partnership.
There are innumerable factors why couples may find themselves alone on Valentineís Day. Couples for example who are in a long distance relationship, an unscheduled business trip popping up, shift work -preventing couples from being together or an unexpected sickness, maybe a family emergency. These are just a few examples of reasons why couples may find themselves apart during Valentineís Day.
While it’s easy to understand the reasons why you and your partner cannot be together on Valentineís Day, it does not make it any easier to accept, does it? Naturally it’s not the be all and end all but you could find yourself feeling a little out of sorts and booting the dog – just joking Rover boy!
However, there is hope for those who are spending Valentineís Day apart from their sole mates or loved ones. To be sure there are a few ways for making the day a lot more fun (some I won’t cover). So, here splashed about are some ways to celebrate Valentineís apart – using the most common situations of why partners are absent.
First up are couples who are in a long distance relationship. For these campers, they’re probably already used to spending important days such as Valentineís Day, anniversaries and other holidays apart, so not a problem really. Nevertheless, there are ways this couple can still spice up their celebration of Valentineís Day together. Letís see… both renting the same movie is a cute idea, with the mobile to hand they can “virtually speaking” watch the movie together. We won’t talk about the phone bill here, can’t be too cheap skate – anyway these days the special family tariffs give unlimited connections for peanuts so it’s possible the couple can chat away on their cell phones ad infinitum, all the while they’re watching the movie together. Also ordering in the same type of food, such as pizza or Chinese, may give the evening even more of a familiar spin – a feeling of togetherness for a little while.
Next letís dip into the unfortunates who find them selves spending Valentineís Day apart due to an unexpected business trip. MmmÖ not great, particularly difficult since the couple is not used to being apart on important days and most likely don’t have a great deal of time to prepare for spending the holiday apart. Discussion first and foremost about Valentineís Day, really as soon as they realize they are going to be spending the holiday apart. Essentially deciding if and when to set a side a time to celebrate: before they separate or after they’re back together, snug as a bug in a rug. Of course it’s important for the couple to try to at least have some contact on Valentineís Day even if it is over the phone, email or web cam. This at least may give a sense of being together; the idea is not to feel too distant or apart.
Having flowers or a special message delivered to your partner while you are separated are oldies but goodies and a great gesture of caring.
Concluding this small applet, there are those who cannot spend Valentineís Day together because one or both of them have work which involves odd shifts. This could include doctors, fire-fighters, police officers or a variety of other professions. Individuals in this type of situation have to generally accommodate and adjusted to their odd schedule and make time to be together outside of working hours. In this case the best way to deal with being apart on Valentineís Day is to plan on celebrating together when it is more convenient. This may not seem like the most romantic option but sometimes it is important to remember that you love your partner every day of the year and you donít have to be together on Valentineís Day to prove your love for each other.
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