It usually happens suddenly and it may be something that we did not see coming, even though it has been coming for quite some time. It usually results because somebody said something or did something that was hurtful and it was just the final straw. Before you know it, you’re standing alone and your wife has left you. If you find yourself in this situation, a million different things may be running through your mind. Don’t allow yourself to give in to despair, however, because it is possible to heal a relationship even if it seems as if it is at the breaking point.
The first thing that you need to do is to really get to the bottom of what happened between the two of you that got it to this point in the first place. Perhaps you are thinking that it is only one event that really triggered the entire problem but more than likely, you’re not looking deep enough below the surface. Try to really step outside of the situation and look at it from that perspective. You will often begin to see little things that were done over the course of time which may have festered under the surface without really being recognized by either of you. Eventually, it reached the boiling point and that is what left you standing where you are today.
Fortunately, most people are not willing to throw away a marriage because things seem to be going in the wrong direction. It is often easier to fix a broken marriage than it is to kick it to the curb and to totally ignore it. I’m not saying that it is going to be easy for you to fix a marriage that is at the breaking point but I am saying that if you work on it, you can usually repair any damage that was done and come out stronger on the other side as a result.
The first thing that you’re going to need to do is to discuss the situation with your wife. This can be a difficult thing to do because by this point, emotions tend to be running pretty high. It is imperative that you keep your cool throughout the entire discussion and that you don’t do any finger-pointing along the way. Instead of trying to prove your point to your wife, listen to what she has to say and really discern what is going on underneath the surface. This is the only way that you’re going to see clearly what needs to be done to save your marriage.
It may also be necessary for you to bring in a third-party, usually a marriage counselor in order to discuss the situation. Instead of looking at this as a violation of trust between the two of you, look at it as an opportunity to hear what your wife is really saying and to allow her to hear what you have to say as well. If you work together on the situation, it certainly is possible for a healing to take place.