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How To Forget The Past Relationship

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The past that refuses to go away casts its shadow very long into the present and the future. Many of us have had break ups in the past and now desire to go forward . Something destroys every new relationship. What is that? Because if you find that your every new relationship is breaking apart, you will start searching for faults in yourself. The truth may lie somewhere else.

What happens after a break up?

This depends largely upon the intensity of the earlier relationship. More intense the love, more hurt will result after the break up. And if your break up took place because of unfaithfulness of your partner, it will hurt you still more. The memories of time shared will haunt forever. A look at something shared will bring in an avalanche of past memories and will take away your peace in a moment. The past can be very destructive. It kills the person, it kills the present and the future. It can haunt one forever.

How to come out of it?

There are no easy ways out of this. Some of us will never come out of the grief for our lifetime. One method that can help is this. Imagine a reservoir of emotions. Imagine of many reservoirs. In one, you have your longing for the one you lost. In another you store your memories of good times. In yet another you have stored pain that you are suffering from. In this manner imagine of many reservoirs. Till they are emptied, you will not become new. Am i right? What is to be done? Please empty them out. It will take time, in some cases many years, but you can empty them if you really want. Live through all your longing again and empty that reservoir. Similarly cry as much as you can and fell the hurt the lost love has given you. Experience everything fully, suffer from all the pain and try to empty out all that is in your heart.

This is very painful. But if you want to live again, please do this. Many of us hide our hurt, avoid thinking about the good moments shared together and in all possible ways try to be so busy that the feelings don’t come out at all. But the feelings are very much there inside eating away our vitals. These feelings will never allow you to move forward in a positive way. Please remove everything from the mind and the heart by reliving and go forward. You may no longer feel the hurt and the pain with the same intensity, but it will be very difficult to fall in love with another person again with the earlier intensity. Please accept this fact. Your beloved you left you has taken away something very vital from you – your faith in goodness of human beings. But after emptying out totally, you will at least be come a normal person, who can carry on life if not like a robot, than like a person without any feelings.

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Breaking Up – The Easy Way

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Relationships are based on trust, love and
understanding. But, in many cases, after a long
time this disappear and the couple argue more and
more. They can’t understand anymore and feel
that everything that the other is making is wrong.
This usually happens because the partners have
tired one of each other, there is nothing
interesting in the relationship any more, or just
one of them decided that they want to be with
somebody else.

You have a relationship for a long time and you
feel that it is enough and you want something
different, or just to be alone with your friends
like before, but you don’t know how to ended in a
easy way. Or maybe you are dating with a girl for
some time and you feel bored and know that is not
the girl for you and you want to break up with
her. If you don’t want to tell her in the face
that it’s over because you know she will cry
begging you to stay with her because she loves
you, you should try the following things that
will make her consider that is the best to break
up with you.

Show no interest in her anymore. Pretend that you
are very busy, you have a lot of work to do and
you don’t have time to go see her today, maybe
tomorrow but no for sure. Show her that you have
more interesting things to do that meeting her.

Don’t call her so often that you did before. You’
ll see that she will call you every day to see
what are you doing and why are you upset on her,
but after a while she will see that you don’t
care about her anymore.

Lie to her. If you tell her lies and she catch
you sheíll definitely go upset because there is
no woman that likes to be lied to. Especially if
you say that you are at work and she sees you
with your friends.

Upset her when you dating her. Even if she is
very happy to see you because she didn’t saw you
for a long time make sure that you make only
things that you know she don’t like while you are
at meeting with her. For example, look after
other women when you are with her.

Be late at the date. No one likes to wait after
somebody especially girls after boys. If you are
late once maybe she will understand you because
anyone can happen, but if you make this a habit
she will feel hurt because you don’t have a piece
of respect for her.

Also, if you want to break up with her not
telling in the face, and donít want to upset and
hurt her making all this things, you can try to
send her a message on the telephone telling her
that you consider that is no worth to stay
together anymore or that you need a break, you
miss your old friends with who you go out before
meeting her. You need a space to go out with your
guys.

She will get a little upset but finally she will
understand that you don’t want to continue
anymore and she will not have the opportunity to
beg and implore you to stay with her.

In a relationship this can happen anytime if you
don’t know to take care of it, to make always
with your partner more and more interesting
things to not interfile routine, because you will
feel bored one of each other and there aren’t
many chances to make this work again. But, if
this really happens to break up with your partner
you have the opportunity to choose on which way
you are going to do it.

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Bonding With Your Partner ñ Without Candles, Wine Or Lingerie!

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Summary: Many partners attempt to bond with candles, wine or lingerie, only to find their time together feeling flat, empty and passionless. In this article, discover what really creates bonding, intimacy and passion with your partner.

A journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond – without a flower delivery, wine, candles, and expensive lingerie?

Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy!

Bonding has nothing to do with candles, wine and expensive lingerie. It has to do with INTENT. In any given moment we are in one of two possible intents:

The intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain

The intent to learn about being loving to ourselves and to others

Virtually all of us have learned many ways of trying to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We learned these protective behaviors when we were children, and as adults we unconsciously continue these learned controlling behaviors, such as anger, criticism, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. For most people, these protective, controlling behaviors have become automatic and habitual. As soon as any fear is triggered, we automatically protect against the fear by arguing, blaming, attacking, judging, shutting down, resisting, or giving in. In relationships, the fears of rejection and engulfment ñ of losing the other or losing ourselves ñ generally underlie our protective behavior.

In a relationship, if one or both partners are closed, protected, controlling, then they cannot emotionally connect with each other. No matter how much time they spend together with candles, wine or expensive lingerie, the connection will not be there when one or both are closed and protected. Ironically, when the intent is to get love or avoid pain, what we create is a lack of love and much pain. Our intent to control brings about the very things we are trying to avoid with our controlling behavior.

Our own intent is the one thing we do have control over. We do not have control over anotherís intent to be open and loving, but we do have control over our own intent to be open to learning about what it means to be loving ourselves and to others. However, it takes both people being in the intent to learn for partners to emotionally bond.

If both are open to learning, then they will be emotionally available to each other and can bond with a touch, a smile, or a kind word. Bonding has to do with the energy between them, not with anything external like candles, and the energy comes from their intent. A controlling intent creates a heavy, dark, hard, closed-hearted energy, while the open-to-learning intent creates a light, soft, open-hearted energy.

The big challenge in relationships is to stay open to learning about loving. Because we automatically and unconsciously revert to our protective, controlling behavior in the face of fear, being open to learning needs to be a conscious choice. Developing the ability to make a conscious choice regarding your intent is a learning process. The hallmark of higher consciousness is being able to choose your intent each and every moment, even in the face of fear.

When relationship partners are both able to reliably choose to be open to learning about loving themselves and each other, they create a sweet and safe environment for their love to flourish. Then candles, vacations, and lingerie can enhance their experience with each other and the icing on the cake.

Easy ways to bond? Staying conscious and open to learning is not easy! The concept is simple, but doing it is far from easy. Yet devoting yourself to learning to stay open to learning in the face of fear may be the most fulfilling and rewarding experience in your life!

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Yes, You Can Have a Romantic Valentine’s Day, On A Budget

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While we would all like to whisk our partner away to celebrate St Valentine’s Day at an exotic five star resort, I know I can’t afford it, just yet!

Here are some ideas for Valentine’s Day luxuries on a budget that will amaze your partner. And if you do it just right, with a little creativity, you can have the ultra-romantic day that will convince your loved one of how much you love him or her. Again.

Getting out into the open air, just the two of you, is a great way to spend Valentines. Head for the hills or the state park. There are walks to suit all – whether its an easy walk or a more demanding hike. Remember, it’s February, so its likely that the place will be deserted and you will have all that natural beauty to yourself. And outdoor privacy is so romantic!

Take along a special picnic when you go out. In a small picnic basket collect a tablecloth, a vase with a realistic rose in it, 2 taper candles with holders (donít forget a lighter) and a lovely meal for two. When you reach the picnic area you can surprise your partner by setting the table for a romantic meal. Sit down and enjoy!

You could take the picnic with you on a romantic drive, or for a day out kite flying or bicycling. Remember that itís being together that is important.

The outdoors idea even works for couples that have children. There’s always plenty for the kids to do if there is a safe and empty playground close by. What better way to celebrate your love than by keeping one eye on the children and reminding yourself why you love them, and their other parent, so much.

Don’t fancy the great, romantic, outdoors? Cooking your romantic Valentineís meal together is a great way to share the day. Male sure that your dinner choice is something you will both enjoy, even better if its a special treat you don’t often have. Go over the top in decorating the dining room and go to town on the place settings. Make sure you both dress up in your best clothes, as if it was your first date, with your best jewelry and scent.

The main thing to remember is that if you are together you will have as romantic a time as you would have at a posh resort or an exclusive restaurant. Itís the thought that counts, not how much money you spend.

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You Love Them Because They’re Funny!

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For years I heard woman after woman say after obviously falling in love, “He’s so funny! I just love that about him.”

Often after someone has lost a family member, they’ll say “I’ll always remember her smile, the way she laughed, the little jokes she would tell to lighten the mood.”

Could it be we love people who have a great sense of humor? I’ve always thought so. And now we have scientific proof of what many of us long suspected. Humor is one of the things we enjoy most about life and, frequently, the people we love are the ones who make us smile.

Fortunately for those of us who probably aren’t that funny, humor is most often in the eye of the beholder. The guys at work may not laugh at your wise cracks, but if SHE laughs, well that’s all that matters.

For a long time, nobody in the scientific world knew much about humor. But during the past 20 years, more and more research has been done. We know what parts of our brains deal with humor. We also know when a baby starts to develop a sense of humor.

So don’t hesitate. Let your funny bone show through!

* When you think something is funny, don’t be afraid to let it out. Just think first if your remark might be taken the wrong way by those in earshot. Humor is great — foot-in-mouth is less great.

* Use humor to ease uncomfortable situations. When the mood starts to get tense, an appropriate chuckle and humorous side remark can get everyone back on track.

* If you’re not naturally funny, read cartoons, joke books, the laugh lines at the back of Reader’s Digest, and pay attention to how script writers set up funny situations on TV. You CAN learn to be more humorous than you are. Pay attention to humor and your sense of humor will develop.

Above all else, be someone who APPRECIATES humor. Try not to make someone feel bad when you don’t find their attempt at humor to be all that funny. As long as the humor isn’t in grossly poor taste, give your humorist a smile. And be one who isn’t afraid to chortle and guffaw when someone really pushes your funny button. A good laugh can be the best medicine you’ve had all day.

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Are You Getting Cheated – Try This Quiz

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So you think that your partner might be cheating you? Why do you think that? Why not try this small quiz and find out the truth? A quiz is always very helpful in finding the truth. The quiz questions are simple such as- Does your partner not love you? Does he/she not share the expenses? Do they look at others and try to give flirting signs even if they are with you? Are they keeping relations with their ex even now? Or is it just a felling that you are being cheated either physically or emotionally? Let us take this quiz and find the truth.

Quiz sixth sense-

Many times, the feeling that we are being cheated is itself an evidence of something going wrong. Our sixth sense tells us that. Our conscious mind may fail to take the hints but the subconscious will do. So while taking this quiz donít ignore the inner signals.

Quiz cheating patterns-

Did you find your partner talking to somebody on phone and then disconnect the phone as soon as they saw you? Is your partner wary of sharing the mail password with you? Are you finding that their cell phone bills are more than normal? Do they go out without informing you and make some excuse when you ask? Are any outside business trips involved? What about late work at the office? Or unscheduled work related meetings? Do they look at you eye to eye while talking? Or avoid talking and walk around while talking? Do you hear telephone bell and when you pick up the phone, line goes dead?

Quiz and get the truth-

These are some of the signs that something might be wrong? Not necessarily cheating. Why not quiz your partner and find the truth? Quizzing point by point will surely tell you the truth.

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Young Love?

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Here in the western world we are obsessed with youth. Our media is saturated with images of the young, beautiful and happy selling us products on the back of the promise that we will become like them if we should only buy this face cream or that car or this insurance policy. The fantastic and circular equation this fallacy is based on seems to be that youth=beauty=success=desirability=love=happiness=youth etc. One only has to look at our icons of romance to see the indelible link between youth and romance. In fact, two of our most famous romantic icons, Juliet and Pocahontas (as lauded by Peggy Lee in the classic love song ‘Fever’) were so young at the time of embarking on their turbulent romances that they would not, today, be considered of legal age. In amongst all this, ne could easily be left with the impression that beyond the age of thirty, all hope for romance is lost.

Happily this is not so! Our senior citizens are getting involved in the dating game in their droves. Actually in all probability they have been doing it for years but the older generation, certainly in Britain, are renowned for their discretion almost to the point of coyness. Luckily for social analysts and writers like myself, a convergence of recent phenomena makes it possible to now gain a much fuller impression of just what our seniors are getting up to!

Recent years have seen an explosion in the number of ‘silver surfers’, that is to say people of retirement age or above who are web literate to a greater or lesser extent and are making regular use of the Internet. The same period has seen a rapid growth in the online dating industry. The result of these two phenomena is that we can see quite plainly, looking at the figures, that it’s definitely not just the young folks who are looking for love online. A recent study carried out by my company revealed over 14,000 active dating site users over the age of 65 compared to an average age group membership of just over 25,000. With numbers like this it’s understandable that seniors are regarded as an important demographic by us in the online dating industry and hardly surprising that classes in Internet dating are springing up at places like the Pleasant Hill Senior Centre in Contra Costa, California.

With a population that is increasingly ageing as the baby boom generation reach their 60s and take a greater knowledge and awareness of current and developing technologies into their later years, it can only be expected that this phenomenon will increase. And so it should be! Why should the spring chickens get a monopoly on the joys of spring?

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Zigime – connecting people to the world.

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Zigime can be an excellent way for friends and family members to stay in touch. Encouraging friends and family members to join zigime with you can help you to stay in better contact with these individuals. Communicating through zigime is a lot of fun and gives users the ability to post pictures, audio, video, jobs, events, mail, classifieds and barter in addition to personal information presented in a blog even on free accounts.

Visiting the ZigiMe websites of your friends, and can also help you to meet more interesting individuals on Zigime. Those who you already consider to be friends likely share some of your interests. Many internet users feel free to express their opinions online than they do in face to face meetings.They are more likely to be interested in attending your meeting if it takes place in a public location because they will feel more comfortable. Friends who have wonderful relationships through zigime may find their relationship falters when they actually meet in person.

ZigiMe can also be used to make business Networking. The search feature can be used to find others who share your business interests, dreams and goals. Zigime help you build your business by generating professional business leads and referral systems. ZigiMe provide barter services, you also create new business contacts and references. ZigiMe barter helps you find what you need and barter services!” News and advice for job seeker. Search your jobs in friend networking site. Search by Category, Experience, Keyword, and location.

My friends My World are a new way to organize showing my friends and overall users. The friends map on zigime.com is a feature offering powerful, user-friendly mapping technology to see where all of your friends are located around the world.

With the My Friends My World, you’ll enjoy the following unique features:
Find your friends – By clicking on any country on the map, you’ll be taken to their locations on the map. It shows male friends,female friends and both separately in the list box You can also click on any of the user to see which friend is where. Not only friends even all people who have joined in zigime.

* zigime is a worldwide friendship network.

* People can come an meet new friends or find old ones.

* Easy way to share digital photos, videos, jobs, events and music.

* users can create own custom profile.

*Design your own profile page with the background and colors you want using either CSS or the editor provided for you by zigime.

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Apart from The Heart

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Distance makes the heart grow fonder, which is especially true for Valentineís Day. It is a wonderous thing to be with the one you love. And Saint Valentine was persecuted, endeavouring to maintain a pagan right of choice and the union of loving partnership.

There are innumerable factors why couples may find themselves alone on Valentineís Day. Couples for example who are in a long distance relationship, an unscheduled business trip popping up, shift work -preventing couples from being together or an unexpected sickness, maybe a family emergency. These are just a few examples of reasons why couples may find themselves apart during Valentineís Day.

While it’s easy to understand the reasons why you and your partner cannot be together on Valentineís Day, it does not make it any easier to accept, does it? Naturally it’s not the be all and end all but you could find yourself feeling a little out of sorts and booting the dog – just joking Rover boy!
However, there is hope for those who are spending Valentineís Day apart from their sole mates or loved ones. To be sure there are a few ways for making the day a lot more fun (some I won’t cover). So, here splashed about are some ways to celebrate Valentineís apart – using the most common situations of why partners are absent.

First up are couples who are in a long distance relationship. For these campers, they’re probably already used to spending important days such as Valentineís Day, anniversaries and other holidays apart, so not a problem really. Nevertheless, there are ways this couple can still spice up their celebration of Valentineís Day together. Letís see… both renting the same movie is a cute idea, with the mobile to hand they can “virtually speaking” watch the movie together. We won’t talk about the phone bill here, can’t be too cheap skate – anyway these days the special family tariffs give unlimited connections for peanuts so it’s possible the couple can chat away on their cell phones ad infinitum, all the while they’re watching the movie together. Also ordering in the same type of food, such as pizza or Chinese, may give the evening even more of a familiar spin – a feeling of togetherness for a little while.

Next letís dip into the unfortunates who find them selves spending Valentineís Day apart due to an unexpected business trip. MmmÖ not great, particularly difficult since the couple is not used to being apart on important days and most likely don’t have a great deal of time to prepare for spending the holiday apart. Discussion first and foremost about Valentineís Day, really as soon as they realize they are going to be spending the holiday apart. Essentially deciding if and when to set a side a time to celebrate: before they separate or after they’re back together, snug as a bug in a rug. Of course it’s important for the couple to try to at least have some contact on Valentineís Day even if it is over the phone, email or web cam. This at least may give a sense of being together; the idea is not to feel too distant or apart.
Having flowers or a special message delivered to your partner while you are separated are oldies but goodies and a great gesture of caring.

Concluding this small applet, there are those who cannot spend Valentineís Day together because one or both of them have work which involves odd shifts. This could include doctors, fire-fighters, police officers or a variety of other professions. Individuals in this type of situation have to generally accommodate and adjusted to their odd schedule and make time to be together outside of working hours. In this case the best way to deal with being apart on Valentineís Day is to plan on celebrating together when it is more convenient. This may not seem like the most romantic option but sometimes it is important to remember that you love your partner every day of the year and you donít have to be together on Valentineís Day to prove your love for each other.

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Five Tips to Revitalize Your Love VIBE

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You have the ability to radiate and revitalize your love vibe to attract more desirable experiences. When you feel loving, you will attract more love. Feeling good about yourself, attracts others to you.

1. Feel Motivated and Enthusiastic About Life and LOVE

When your energy goes into all of your relationships it makes it hard to focus on you and what you want to create. It becomes challenging to maintain balanced emotional, mental and physical health. When your energy is engaged in an unhappy or abusive relationship with a negative thinking or a mis-behaving person, you are vulnerable to illness and exhaustion. So much of your vital force goes into making things right that you become depleted.

2. Release Un-Wanted Thoughts

When you think about your past problems, your energy goes into them. Have you spent time thinking ahead of yourself into the future preparing, planning or worrying about what is yet to come? When you jump into the past or future events or situations it is difficult to appreciate and make the most of the present moment. What you think about; you bring about. When you spend time on unwanted thoughts or feelings it leaves less energy for you to just be.

3. Love Energy is Intoxicating

Can you remember feeling in love? Love energy is intoxicating. Access that intoxicating love energy to incorporate positive, loving feelings into your life. Connecting to a loving feeling creates a feeling of safety and support. When you feel safe, you release anxiety, awkwardness and uneasiness, allowing your natural sexual expression to flow easily.

4. Increase Your Vibrant LOVE Essence

Reclaiming your energy will not only help stop unwanted thoughts, it will also decrease confusion and increase your ability to communicate with your own inner voice. To reclaim your own energy from people, places and situations, visualize a shimmering golden sun above your head. Allow it to magnetically reclaim your energy from places where you left it. Then, with your imagination, bring the golden sun down into your body, replenishing all the cells of your body. Imagine yourself engulfed with this powerful, vibrant essence of YOU.

5. Revitalize Your Self ñ Any Time, Any Where

You can replenish yourself all day long. While standing in a stagnant grocery line, after a grueling energy zapping meeting with your boss or during a soccer game with the kids, you can replenish your energy. Revitalize your drooping spirit any time during the day or while practicing the relaxing exercises in this book. You can ëre-energizeí yourself as often as desired. Begin to feel lighter, more alive, relaxed, and calm as you reclaim more of your energy. There is an infinite amount of energy you can reclaim for yourself.

When you have more of our own vital energy in your energetic space and body, you build momentum and attract more of what you desire. With practice, your energy becomes more powerful and magnetic. Without effort, you develop clarity and effortlessly become what you want. Your natural effervescence will begin to bubble up as you release accumulated stress and radiate your natural sensuality.

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