Monthly Archives: February 2012

How To Forget The Past Relationship

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The past that refuses to go away casts its shadow very long into the present and the future. Many of us have had break ups in the past and now desire to go forward . Something destroys every new relationship. What is that? Because if you find that your every new relationship is breaking apart, you will start searching for faults in yourself. The truth may lie somewhere else.

What happens after a break up?

This depends largely upon the intensity of the earlier relationship. More intense the love, more hurt will result after the break up. And if your break up took place because of unfaithfulness of your partner, it will hurt you still more. The memories of time shared will haunt forever. A look at something shared will bring in an avalanche of past memories and will take away your peace in a moment. The past can be very destructive. It kills the person, it kills the present and the future. It can haunt one forever.

How to come out of it?

There are no easy ways out of this. Some of us will never come out of the grief for our lifetime. One method that can help is this. Imagine a reservoir of emotions. Imagine of many reservoirs. In one, you have your longing for the one you lost. In another you store your memories of good times. In yet another you have stored pain that you are suffering from. In this manner imagine of many reservoirs. Till they are emptied, you will not become new. Am i right? What is to be done? Please empty them out. It will take time, in some cases many years, but you can empty them if you really want. Live through all your longing again and empty that reservoir. Similarly cry as much as you can and fell the hurt the lost love has given you. Experience everything fully, suffer from all the pain and try to empty out all that is in your heart.

This is very painful. But if you want to live again, please do this. Many of us hide our hurt, avoid thinking about the good moments shared together and in all possible ways try to be so busy that the feelings don’t come out at all. But the feelings are very much there inside eating away our vitals. These feelings will never allow you to move forward in a positive way. Please remove everything from the mind and the heart by reliving and go forward. You may no longer feel the hurt and the pain with the same intensity, but it will be very difficult to fall in love with another person again with the earlier intensity. Please accept this fact. Your beloved you left you has taken away something very vital from you – your faith in goodness of human beings. But after emptying out totally, you will at least be come a normal person, who can carry on life if not like a robot, than like a person without any feelings.

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Breaking Up – The Easy Way

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Relationships are based on trust, love and
understanding. But, in many cases, after a long
time this disappear and the couple argue more and
more. They can’t understand anymore and feel
that everything that the other is making is wrong.
This usually happens because the partners have
tired one of each other, there is nothing
interesting in the relationship any more, or just
one of them decided that they want to be with
somebody else.

You have a relationship for a long time and you
feel that it is enough and you want something
different, or just to be alone with your friends
like before, but you don’t know how to ended in a
easy way. Or maybe you are dating with a girl for
some time and you feel bored and know that is not
the girl for you and you want to break up with
her. If you don’t want to tell her in the face
that it’s over because you know she will cry
begging you to stay with her because she loves
you, you should try the following things that
will make her consider that is the best to break
up with you.

Show no interest in her anymore. Pretend that you
are very busy, you have a lot of work to do and
you don’t have time to go see her today, maybe
tomorrow but no for sure. Show her that you have
more interesting things to do that meeting her.

Don’t call her so often that you did before. You’
ll see that she will call you every day to see
what are you doing and why are you upset on her,
but after a while she will see that you don’t
care about her anymore.

Lie to her. If you tell her lies and she catch
you sheíll definitely go upset because there is
no woman that likes to be lied to. Especially if
you say that you are at work and she sees you
with your friends.

Upset her when you dating her. Even if she is
very happy to see you because she didn’t saw you
for a long time make sure that you make only
things that you know she don’t like while you are
at meeting with her. For example, look after
other women when you are with her.

Be late at the date. No one likes to wait after
somebody especially girls after boys. If you are
late once maybe she will understand you because
anyone can happen, but if you make this a habit
she will feel hurt because you don’t have a piece
of respect for her.

Also, if you want to break up with her not
telling in the face, and donít want to upset and
hurt her making all this things, you can try to
send her a message on the telephone telling her
that you consider that is no worth to stay
together anymore or that you need a break, you
miss your old friends with who you go out before
meeting her. You need a space to go out with your
guys.

She will get a little upset but finally she will
understand that you don’t want to continue
anymore and she will not have the opportunity to
beg and implore you to stay with her.

In a relationship this can happen anytime if you
don’t know to take care of it, to make always
with your partner more and more interesting
things to not interfile routine, because you will
feel bored one of each other and there aren’t
many chances to make this work again. But, if
this really happens to break up with your partner
you have the opportunity to choose on which way
you are going to do it.

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Advice on Dealing with Unrequited Love

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Unrequited love is the pits. Let’s just get that out of the way right now. You know this or you wouldn’t be reading this article, right? It doesn’t matter whether you love someone who barely knows your name, or have lost the love of your life – it just plain hurts!
The problem for most people with unrequited love is that it becomes obsessive. You think about the person all the time, imagine various conversations with them and analyze everything to death in attempt to figure out whether there is a way to win him or her over after all.
Here’s the trick, though: You’re much more likely to win over your unrequited love when you no longer care whether the two of you are together or not.
You’re also more likely to find someone new, quite unexpectedly, who will make you forget the one you’re currently pining away for all the time.
Either way, you will win in the end if you can detach from the fantasy you have about your unrequited love. This doesn’t mean you have to detach from your emotions or stop loving, only that you must distance yourself from daydreaming about “what could be, if only.”
This fact points to another difficulty with unrequited love. It creates a kind of “emotional congestion”. You are left standing with all these positive feelings, fantasies and plans, yet have no outlet for them. In order to break free from this trap, you need to ask yourself whether these feelings are really about the other person.
Could it be you were simply ‘in love with love’, and your ex is someone who fit the template in your subconscious of the type of person to attach those feelings to?
Love is a two-way street. It is also an act of acceptance. If you truly love someone, you must accept their ability to love you back for what it is. Maybe they can love you as a friend and fellow human, but not as a potential mate?
If that’s the case, then that is about them, not you. It isn’t something you can control. The loving response is to accept the kind of connection that person is willing to offer you. Otherwise, it is best just to let go.
Even if your love is unrequited, it is still a beautiful testament to your capacity to love others. Never let this part of you hide away. Yes, it can hurt and sometimes you might wonder “why bother?”, but you will love again.
And if you are selective enough about who you trust your love to, you will most certainly come out on top next time by finding the one who will return your love in equal measure!

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