If marriage were a simple mathematical equation you would be able to add up anything that went on within your marriage and to come to a conclusion with ease. This is especially the case whenever things go wrong in a marriage and they almost inevitably will. Whenever you find yourself standing in a position where it seems as if your marriage is going nowhere, you might consider divorce to be the only answer to the problem. Instead of thinking that there is only one answer, however, try looking for alternatives and see if there is something else that will fit.
None of us enter into a marriage thinking that someday it is going to end in divorce. We promised ourselves and perhaps promised our marriage mate before we were wed that we were going to do everything in our power to make sure that the two of us stuck together through thick and thin. Over the course of time, however, problems seem to creep into a marriage and there are things that we did not count on in the first place. It is not usually one large problem that we can point to which brings our marriage to the breaking point. More than likely, it is many smaller things that brought us there over the course of time.
The first thing that should be done whenever you find yourself in this situation is that the two of you need to determine between yourself that you are going to do whatever is possible in order for you to repair the marriage that seems broken. You then need to look below the surface as much as possible and to separate yourself from the situation to a certain extent so that you are able to identify any problems that may need to be repaired.
At times, this may be a difficult thing to do because our own emotions are what gets in the way and prevent us from being able to truly see what the other person is trying to say. If this is the case with you, you might want to consider getting a marriage counselor and having them look at the situation for you. They are not there to be in your favor or in the favor of your spouse. They are only there to be a neutral third party, one that can see the situation for what it truly is.
If there is one thing that is necessary for the two of you to save your dying marriage, it is determination. You need to attack this with a renewed zeal that is similar to the one that you probably had whenever you were first married. Be kind to each other as much as possible and be careful not to jump to conclusions when you do not understand what the other person is saying. If you work together on the situation, it is possible to save the marriage that seems to be at the breaking point.