I’ve heard something a thousand times if I’ve heard it one time, and that’s people saying that divorce is the easy way out. Even though this is a popular theory, I have to tell you that divorce is anything but easy for those who have to go through it. In fact, the only people that I’ve really ever heard say that are either happily married or have never had the misfortune to go through a divorce in the first place. If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you think that divorce is the only option, I would like you to think again in light of the following information.
First of all, divorce is an option that you may take into consideration at some point or another but it is by no means the only option that you have available to you. You and your spouse may feel as if there is an insurmountable obstacle that is standing between you but there is really no such thing if you work together in overcoming it. Yes, it might seem as though you are never going to reach the top but if that is where you set your sights, you will eventually get there.
Perhaps it can be summed up with this illustration. When you and your spouse are standing where you are probably standing now, it is as if there is a huge mountain between the two of you. The only way for you to get together again is to meet at the top. As you start your journey toward the summit, you will still be far apart but with every step you take, the mountain will narrow between you. As you continue to climb, you will eventually reach a place where you can begin to see each other around the obstacle if you look far enough and before you know it, you will be on the top.
This may be a simple illustration but it really shows what we have to do in order for us to heal our marriage and start living our lives together again. We both need to put forth the effort because it is a combination of efforts that really makes us move forward. If you feel as if you have hit a snag along the way, work harder, work kinder and get beyond it. Every obstacle that you remove between the two of you will make you all that much more closer.
It might be possible that you will need to bring in some professional help in the form of a counselor along the way. Don’t be afraid to try this as an outside opinion from a neutral party may be just what you need to identify things that need worked on. Be happy and celebrate all of the steps that you take together. Before long, you will reach your goal and you will discover why you fell in love with each other in the first place. No, divorce is not the easy way out, and although mending the relationship will take effort, it will all be worth it in the end.