What if They Can't See Common Sense?
We all know that men and women don't think alike. One of the reasons it is so difficult to keep a relationship
happy is that neither one can understand the other's reasoning.
Even if you thought your partner was the smartest person you had even met in the beginning, you have probably
developed some different insight into how you rate his intelligence.
Not all thoughts and actions are based on deep, contemplative thoughts. There's a little thing called common
sense and not everyone seems to have gotten their fair share of it.
Common Sense and the Unfaithful Partner
Although the old question of "why do men cheat?" has evolved into a more modern adaptation of "why do people
cheat?" men are still more likely to be the ones who are unfaithful. This is especially true of serial
Why do they do it? Lots of answers have been given from "because he can" to the more modern label of "sexual
addict." Those of us with common sense know that if men had a little more of it themselves, they would see the
potential for disaster from cheating on their partners
before they jumped into the fire.
The Big Excuse
The reason men will often give for being unfaithful to their spouse is that "she let herself go." In many cases,
you will find that the woman is in fact in much better shape than her cheating partner! Men will also cheat with
women who don't compare to their wives in looks, fitness, or personality.
Common sense would tell you that if there is something about your spouse that you are unhappy with, you should
have a serious conversation about it and let them know how you feel and how important it is to you.
If you have a partner who loves you and is happy with the relationship, then they are probably going to want to
work on making you happy and keeping your relationship intact. Yet, many men choose to keep quiet about their
feelings when the love has gone cold and pursue other women.
The Consequences of Getting Caught
Maybe men really believe they are too smart to get caught and that they will never be held accountable for their
actions. Maybe they don't consider that you will leave them and take your part of everything that you own with
If there are children in the relationship, you are risking even more by cheating. Custody, visitation, and child
support are just some of the issues you could face. Losing the love and respect of your children are also a
The reality is that if you cheat, you could lose your wife and your children in addition to everything material
that you care for. Once your spouse knows the truth, it is up to her to stay and work on the relationship or cut
her losses and leave.
How to Nurture Common Sense
For many men and women, common sense just doesn't come naturally. If you are one of those people who tend to act
and not wander what in the world you were thinking until you get caught, then you need to work at finding the
common sense inside you and nurturing it until it is strong enough to protect you and what matters to you.
Make yourself stop and think before you take action. What are you risking? Are you willing to lose what you have
for someone you may never even see again?
If your spouse is the one who doesn't seem to have any common sense, it may be a matter of the difference in
thinking patterns or it may be a sign of something more serious. If you can't predict what your spouse will think
or do, then you may have a problem with trust as well.
It is never too early to seek counseling to find ways to build
trust and commitment in your relationship. Getting your spouse to commit to your relationship now can help
prevent cheating in the future.
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