The Importance Of Self Esteem in Your Relationship
Your self esteem is the way that you feel about yourself. It is the values you place through your thoughts and
Some people think very highly of themselves while others do not place a lot of value on themselves at all.
If this is the case, you are considered to be suffering from "low self esteem" and suffering is exactly what it
can bring into a relationship.
Facing Your Issues
Low self esteem usually comes from the issues that you have and can't resolve. It can come from a number of real
issues such as:
* Something that you did in your past such as become addicted to drugs or alcohol or spending time in
* A particular physical attribute such as misshapen teeth or from being overweight.
* Not feeling smart.
* An inability to socialize with others.
* A lack of success in your life.
Generally, anything that makes you feel self-conscious will contribute to low self esteem whether it is
something that you point out to yourself or as the result of ridicule from others.
Low Self Esteem and a Relationship
In a relationship, low self esteem can turn into a cycle of misery. When a person doesn't feel value in
themselves, they are more likely to believe that they don't deserve the best of treatment from their spouse.
If you have ever wondered why a woman who is abused will stay in the relationship, sometimes until it comes to a
tragic conclusion, low self esteem is often to blame.
Whether she had low self esteem coming into the relationship or she has developed it through verbal abuse and
controlling behavior from her spouse, she becomes convinced that she deserves to be treated in this way and that
she doesn't deserve a better kind of life.
The relationship doesn't have to have physical abuse in order to be bad from low self esteem. If you marry
someone who is not as attractive as you would like because you think that is all you deserve, that can not only
make you unhappy but can lead to low self esteem in your spouse!
Any time that you are in a relationship with someone who is not everything you want in a partner because you
don't think you deserve better, you are setting yourself up for an unhappy relationship for you both.
How to Boost Your Self Esteem
If you are going to improve your self esteem, you are
going to have to change the way you think about yourself and the decisions you have made. If you have come from a
childhood that included physical and/or verbal abuse, you may need professional counseling to get past your low
To improve your feelings towards yourself, try to do the following:
* Look for the key to triggering your self-doubt. Find out if there are specific events that seem to leave you
frustrated and feeling inadequate. This can include things at work, issues with your family, or with your
* Determine what it is about these events that make them troubling to you. You need to get into your own head
and figure out what is real and what you are lying to yourself about. Do an honest evaluation of what the facts are
and what you have convinced yourself to be true without any evidence to back them up.
* Don't accept the lies but challenge them. If you don't address the situations that are destroying your self
esteem, you will never build the confidence you need to be strong in any situation or in your relationship.
* Work towards changing the way you think and forgive yourself for the times you made mistakes. Trying to be
perfect is a sure way to destroy your self esteem.
We all have things in our lives that we don't enjoy and sometimes they can be devastating whenever they occur.
Try to leave the past in the past and work towards creating a confident person who has the self esteem to choose
the right partner for a happy relationship!
I'm not sure if you've seen this yet, but before I go, I thought I'd let you know about a self-esteem boosting
resource called "Supreme Self Confidence - In Dating, Relationships and Social Situations".
Inside, it contains a cutting-edge training method for putting a stop to all major hurdles that you
face when you have self esteem issues. What is "Supreme Self Confidence - In Dating, Relationships and Social
First of all you should know that it is NOT about:
Wishy-washing, touchy-feely generic affirmations that other confidence 'experts' offer
But it IS about:
-Achieving personal confidence and overcoming self-doubt.
-Achieving social confidence and creating and maintaining conversation with strangers.
-Achieving confidence in the workplace. Plus MUCH more.
To find out more about "Supreme Self Confidence" visit: