Steps to Relationship Rescue
Most people have a pretty good idea of when their relationship is in
trouble. Some people, being in complete denial, choose to ignore the signs and hope they will go away.
While others fight about it, never really trying to solve anything. So if you know your relationship is in
trouble, keep reading and see what steps you can take to rescue your relationship.
Step #1 – Decide, is it worth it? Sometimes people try to stay in relationships for all
the wrong reasons.
They stay for the kids, or because they don’t have the money to get out or because they are afraid of what
people might say. If you are staying for any other reason than because you love your partner then your relationship
may not be savable.
Step #2 – The root of the problem. To solve the majority of your problems you have to
get to the root of the problem. You can’t just slap a band aid on it and cross your fingers. You have to get to the
bottom of the problem, get past the symptoms and kill the root of the issue.
Step #3 – Share how you feel. This one is tough because not only do you have to be
willing to share how you feel, you have to count on your partner to be open and willing to listen. This also works
in the reverse.
If your partner is willing to open up you have to be
willing to listen. It is also important for both parties to understand what is about to be said may not be easy to
say or to hear. And make it very clear at the beginning neither of you are saying anything to the other one to hurt
them, but to deal with an issue.
Step #4 – Create a plan. Once everything is out on the table, the next step is to create
a plan you can both live with to correct the problems. The plan might include adding a date night once a month, or
talking every night for 10-15 min. to touch base.
By getting some time together you can see what is going on with each other instead of trying to guess or wonder.
Once you have both agreed on a plan you both have to really follow through, so don’t finalize the plan until you
are sure you can follow through on all of it.
Step #5 – Check back in. Rescuing a
relationship is not a one afternoon fix, it is a continual process. You are going to want to re-evaluate your
plan every so often, say every 3 months. And it may feel like you aren’t making much progress at the beginning, but
so long as there is any you are headed in the right direction.
The steps to rescuing a relationship are fairly straight forward, but that does not mean they are easy to follow
through on. It takes time, effort and patience for things to get back on track. It also takes desire from both
partners or it definitely won’t work.
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