Making Your Relationship Work
When I was growing up divorce was just something that wasn’t done, or at least not very often. Now more and more
couples are divorcing or breaking up.
So why are people having a harder time staying together and what can be done to keep a relationship together and
making it work?
I believe the reason people don’t stay together is two-fold.
First, there are more options now, if you are unhappy you don’t have to stay because if you don’t you will be
shunned by the community.
Second, because people always thinking things are “greener on the other side” and they give up too quickly. The
purpose of this article is to show you what you can do to make your relationship work.
The number one way to make your
relationship work is to communicate. Communication is so essential to a relationship. If you don’t share the
day to day stuff, the important stuff and the stuff that sucks then your partner has no idea where you are and what
is going on with you and you have no idea where they are or what is going on with them.
The next way is to make you available. And no I don’t mean time here. You have to be open emotionally wise. You
have to be willing to let the other person into your world and you have to want to be in his or hers. You also have
to open your heart and let them into it, which is hard to do if you have ever been hurt before.
Another important piece to the puzzle of a relationship is being willing to share it all. And what I mean by
that is: the good, the bad, the love, the frustration, the fun, and the sadness.
The fourth way to make your relationship work is for both of you to compromise. You can’t always have it your
way or vice versa. So be prepared to give a little and on occasion to take a little.
By compromising you change each other/shape each other and that is not a bad thing because change comes no
matter what. And sometimes that change is for the better because you are forced to look at things from a different
Another big one is tied to your values and beliefs. You don’t necessarily have to agree on everything in
relation to values and beliefs, but you have to respect each other. If you don’t one or both of you will get
Making any relationship work is not easy. It takes
work and compromise, it requires you to open up you heart and allow the other person it; it demands that you both
communicate, and it means loving the other person for all the good and especially all the bad.
If you are not willing to do those things then your relationship is going to have a very difficult road to
follow. But if you make the commitment then the end result is something that is beautiful and something that can
last a life time.