How To Pick Yourself Up After A Breakup
Break-ups really are one of the toughest things we deal with in life. There's an intense feeling of loss, and
The relationship is no longer good, but it still hurts so much. A divorce or breakup represents a lost of more
than a relationship, but everything you shared; hopes and dreams of a future together.
A breakup is traumatic because everything associated with the relationship is changed; your mutual friends,
shared families and all of the good memories are damaged, often beyond repair.
Life without your partner is something you never thought you would have to face. But here you are, uncertain of
the future and in doubt about the past. Will you be alone? Will you find someone else? When will you learn to trust
again? Will you recover from the pain of a breakup?
Coping with the breakup is difficult, but remember, you will go on and things will get better. Time heals all
wounds, they say, and they are right. Give it time and you will recover fully. You will have learned something from
the relationship, too.
It is normal to feel sad, angry, deserted, alone and confused . . . all at the same time. Accept that you will
feel anxious, tired and frustrated, too. These feelings will lessen and in time everything will be well again.
Allow yourself to grieve over the loss of your partner. You will miss the companionship and shared experiences.
You will not have the support of a partner and you may suffer financial loss as well.
The loss of hopes and dreams will be the most painful. But all of these feelings will soften and fade away with
time. At least by feeling the pain you will know that you are alive with emotions. Don't fight these feelings,
accept and deal with them.
Talk to a close friend or your clergyman about how you are feeling. It helps to get control over your emotions
to talk about them, expose them to the light of day. When others are aware of your feelings you will be less
Keep a journal or diary of your feelings during this time. Just recording them will help you deal with them.
Make a plan for moving on and record it in your journal. Set milestones and mark when you pass them.
If you are still having problems dealing with the breakup, you may be suffering from depression. Seek assistance
from your medical practitioner, maybe a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
Reach out to your friends and family. People who are close to you are concerned about your wellbeing and will be
supportive. Choose your leaning posts wisely because it is important for you to feel comfortable opening up
honestly about the breakup and your feelings.
If there are children who were part of the relationship, you should be concerned because breakups are often
traumatic for the kids as they are part of the relationship after all. It can help your emotions to help your
children with their feelings. Often it is the kids who are supportive of the grieving parent.
Take care of yourself after the breakup. Don't let yourself go physically. Start a new fitness program; begin a
diet, or both, as this will get you on a new schedule and give you something to look forward to, something in which
you have measurable progress.
Stick to your regular routines. Don't let the lack of a partner deter you from your career or other
Stay away from alcohol or drugs as a means to ease the pain
of a break up. The reasons are too obvious to elucidate.
Explore new interests. Take up a new hobby or write a book. Think of the breakup as a new beginning, not an end
Learn from the mistakes in your relationship; yours and your partners. You will be a better person for it.
I hope that these thoughts will help you deal with any situation you face.
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