Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner?
It is normal in any relationship to go through periods of stagnation or detachment. As people change and life
introduces more hectic activities or even boredom you may be feeling disconnected from your partner and want to
learn ways to bridge the divide.
Feeling close and connected takes work and a commitment to progress within your partnership. It doesn’t
necessarily mean you have serious issues or incompatibilities but simply the time has come to assess your love and
devotion and then take it to the next level in growth.
Whether you are married or in a long term relationship, there are many ideas which will help to ignite the
romance, passion and communication between you and your partner.
Any marriage or couples counselor will point out the importance of planning scheduled dates. When life is busy
it is often easy to set aside your relationship priorities and forget to celebrate the love of your life.
To bring back the excitement of your initial coupling,
you should try and go out with your partner at least once a month if not once a week. Try making this a routine
event and plan it as you did in the past when you were first dating.
In order for this to be most successful, consider changing the dates and doing new and different things
together. Don’t always eat at the same restaurant or take part in the same events or over time this too will become
monotonous. Do special things together which will create lasting memories for reflection in later years.
One of the most important aspects of a relationship or marriage is the ability for a couple to discuss, share
and open up through dialogue and mutual conversation. If you are feeling disconnected from your partner because you
haven’t been communicating, it is essential to work on this right away. A lack of sharing creates a rift which over
time lends to a distancing which is difficult to bridge.
In order to introduce communication back into your life, you will need to set aside a specific time of day when
this is convenient. Turn off the television, put the kids to bed and/or simply decide when an appropriate and
relaxed time would make sense. You certainly want your time to talk convenient for you both and when there will be
While you may think it is necessary to have deep, heartfelt, meaningful topics on hand, this is not the case.
Start off simply discussing your day, the things you learned the concerns or fears you have and readdress your
goals and dreams as a couple.
Try to always keep the conversation as positive as possible and remember to be open and loving. This is a time
to share with each other and remember how much you enjoy simply talking about anything!
After a relationship has gone on for awhile, many couples forget to give each other those small signs and
gestures which indicate their love. If you are in a place where you have occasional sex or quick pecks on the cheek
before work but no longer express love meaningfully, take this advice.
Reach out to your partner and give them the affection they deserve. Back rubs, kisses, hugs, whispered I love
you’s and flirtations are all ways to express affection.
The end result is a feeling of support, comfort, closeness and desire.
Although you may be feeling disconnected from your partner, if you incorporate some of these tips, you will see
an improvement in your relationship right away. This will compound if both you AND your partner work together
toward this positive result and instill the romantic closeness you once had.